These last 6 months have been a roller coaster. I met this amazing guy. Treated me like gold. I was so happy.
Knew what candy I like (Skittles) and would hide them places to surprise me with them.
Would show up when I wasn't expecting him just to make me smile.
Sent me cute pictures of handwritten signs telling me I'm cute or he misses me.
Talked to me all the time and would be upset if he couldn't.
Loved to buy me little things and told me how much he missed me.
He'd always talk to me on my drive there and get excited the closer I got to him.
Every morning there'd be a text message saying good morning.
Then something changed.
And now he treats me like my worth is less than anything.
Always assuming I'm cheating or that I'm looking for someone new.
Somehow always turns everything around and makes me look and feel like the bad guy.
I'm not supposed to have friends that he doesn't know but he refuses to meet any of my friends.
Won't be my date for my BEST FRIEND'S wedding.
Borrows money and then complains about paying it back.
Gets angry with me over almost anything.
"Jokes" around with me all the time, which consists of making fun of me and being mean.
Gets mad when I go downtown, or to shows or even hangout with friends because my ex might be there or because there will be men in general there.
Won't text me in the morning or any time when he's not at work, but expects me to talk to him all day long when he's working, even if I'm with friends or working.
Refuses to hold my hand, not only in public but in private too.
Tells me he doesn't love me, doesn't see a future with me, yet he gets so mad when I say things like I want to move back to Boston or talk about something a couple months from now that don't involve him.
Doesn't seem to care at all, and whenever he makes me feel bad he tell me "boo hoo" "too bad" and shit like that.
I know I should not put up with this. I know I'm worth more. I know I'm cute, smart, funny and worth someone who will be good to me.
Nice
Funny
Smart
Treats me like I'm important.
Tells me he misses me.
Holds my hand without me asking.
Cuddles without it having to do with sex.
Takes me cute places (dinner, movies, beach, picnic)
Respects my interests even if he doesn't indulge in them too.
Does things just to make me smile.
Acknowledges when I make an effort, big or small.
Loves me.
This doesn't seem like a lot to ask. But somehow it is.
What am I supposed to do? I don't want to leave him, but I can only keep up dealing with this mean, nasty, harsh behavior for so long until I'm just hurting myself. I'm afraid of being without him, which is stupid. I have been on my own many times, and there are many guys out there who'd jump at the chance to have a awesome legit girlfriend like me. But for some reason I keep holding on, hoping that he'll change back into the guy I fell for. He treats me like he used to every once in a while. But I feel like a lot of the time it's because it has something to do sexual things. I even brought that up to him and he turned it around on me AGAIN and told me that he'd stop being sexual towards me at all. There's not equality, no compromise. I just want him to treat me like he expects to be treated. Like, I took a Greyhound bus all the way to him, 4 hours each way and he didn't even really care. He picked me up from the bus station after making me wait for 30 minutes. If that had been me, I'd have driven to WPB to get him or if he did take the bus, then I'd be there waiting for the bus to arrive; excited to see him and would never want him to wait. But he doesn't care when I care. I feel like he doesn't want me, but that he really does and is just putting up a front.
Even today I am home sick. I feel like shit, am lonely and I miss him. I just want to be comforted. I know he can't be here taking care of me, but he's off from work and is hanging out playing Call Of Duty with his best friend. And he won't talk to me. He'll update his twitter, check his inkednation and chat with other people but he won't try and comfort me. He won't even talk to me and then when I'm like "ugh awesome, please talk to me". He's like "what??? jesus what do you want?".
He tells me I'm a good girlfriend. And says he doesn't know how or why I put up with this treatment. Which makes it worse, because he KNOWS that he's treating me wrong. He knows and doesn't care and doesn't try to be nice to me. I've tried everything; being super nice and doing anything he wants to putting my foot down and telling him I just don't care and I'm not going to let him stress me out anymore. Yet no matter what I say he turns it around on me. When I'm super nice he thinks I'm doing something wrong and am feeling guilty and is a jerk because of it. If I put my foot down, he tells me I can't tell him what to do and there's no reason to be nice to me if I don't care.
All I wish is that he'd care and tell me and show me.
And to top it off now I'm not allowed to be friends with his friends. I wonder why? Oh yeah, cause they don't want us dating. Why? Because he tells them that I'm looking for other guys and doing all these things wrong which IS NOT TRUE because I only want him. If we're friends they might find out about the way he's actually been treating me. And that I'm NOT the bad guy and mayne they'd be upset with him for the way he's acting. That's why he doesn't want them to talk to me. And now they don't like me apparently, and don't want us to date. He barely seems to like me, so I don't understand why he's still with me. He's so lucky to have someone who cares so much and puts up with so much, yet he doesn't appreciate me at all. I know I deserve better, I wish he could give it to me.
Knew what candy I like (Skittles) and would hide them places to surprise me with them.
Would show up when I wasn't expecting him just to make me smile.
Sent me cute pictures of handwritten signs telling me I'm cute or he misses me.
Talked to me all the time and would be upset if he couldn't.
Loved to buy me little things and told me how much he missed me.
He'd always talk to me on my drive there and get excited the closer I got to him.
Every morning there'd be a text message saying good morning.
Then something changed.
And now he treats me like my worth is less than anything.
Always assuming I'm cheating or that I'm looking for someone new.
Somehow always turns everything around and makes me look and feel like the bad guy.
I'm not supposed to have friends that he doesn't know but he refuses to meet any of my friends.
Won't be my date for my BEST FRIEND'S wedding.
Borrows money and then complains about paying it back.
Gets angry with me over almost anything.
"Jokes" around with me all the time, which consists of making fun of me and being mean.
Gets mad when I go downtown, or to shows or even hangout with friends because my ex might be there or because there will be men in general there.
Won't text me in the morning or any time when he's not at work, but expects me to talk to him all day long when he's working, even if I'm with friends or working.
Refuses to hold my hand, not only in public but in private too.
Tells me he doesn't love me, doesn't see a future with me, yet he gets so mad when I say things like I want to move back to Boston or talk about something a couple months from now that don't involve him.
Doesn't seem to care at all, and whenever he makes me feel bad he tell me "boo hoo" "too bad" and shit like that.
I know I should not put up with this. I know I'm worth more. I know I'm cute, smart, funny and worth someone who will be good to me.
Nice
Funny
Smart
Treats me like I'm important.
Tells me he misses me.
Holds my hand without me asking.
Cuddles without it having to do with sex.
Takes me cute places (dinner, movies, beach, picnic)
Respects my interests even if he doesn't indulge in them too.
Does things just to make me smile.
Acknowledges when I make an effort, big or small.
Loves me.
This doesn't seem like a lot to ask. But somehow it is.
What am I supposed to do? I don't want to leave him, but I can only keep up dealing with this mean, nasty, harsh behavior for so long until I'm just hurting myself. I'm afraid of being without him, which is stupid. I have been on my own many times, and there are many guys out there who'd jump at the chance to have a awesome legit girlfriend like me. But for some reason I keep holding on, hoping that he'll change back into the guy I fell for. He treats me like he used to every once in a while. But I feel like a lot of the time it's because it has something to do sexual things. I even brought that up to him and he turned it around on me AGAIN and told me that he'd stop being sexual towards me at all. There's not equality, no compromise. I just want him to treat me like he expects to be treated. Like, I took a Greyhound bus all the way to him, 4 hours each way and he didn't even really care. He picked me up from the bus station after making me wait for 30 minutes. If that had been me, I'd have driven to WPB to get him or if he did take the bus, then I'd be there waiting for the bus to arrive; excited to see him and would never want him to wait. But he doesn't care when I care. I feel like he doesn't want me, but that he really does and is just putting up a front.
Even today I am home sick. I feel like shit, am lonely and I miss him. I just want to be comforted. I know he can't be here taking care of me, but he's off from work and is hanging out playing Call Of Duty with his best friend. And he won't talk to me. He'll update his twitter, check his inkednation and chat with other people but he won't try and comfort me. He won't even talk to me and then when I'm like "ugh awesome, please talk to me". He's like "what??? jesus what do you want?".
He tells me I'm a good girlfriend. And says he doesn't know how or why I put up with this treatment. Which makes it worse, because he KNOWS that he's treating me wrong. He knows and doesn't care and doesn't try to be nice to me. I've tried everything; being super nice and doing anything he wants to putting my foot down and telling him I just don't care and I'm not going to let him stress me out anymore. Yet no matter what I say he turns it around on me. When I'm super nice he thinks I'm doing something wrong and am feeling guilty and is a jerk because of it. If I put my foot down, he tells me I can't tell him what to do and there's no reason to be nice to me if I don't care.
All I wish is that he'd care and tell me and show me.
And to top it off now I'm not allowed to be friends with his friends. I wonder why? Oh yeah, cause they don't want us dating. Why? Because he tells them that I'm looking for other guys and doing all these things wrong which IS NOT TRUE because I only want him. If we're friends they might find out about the way he's actually been treating me. And that I'm NOT the bad guy and mayne they'd be upset with him for the way he's acting. That's why he doesn't want them to talk to me. And now they don't like me apparently, and don't want us to date. He barely seems to like me, so I don't understand why he's still with me. He's so lucky to have someone who cares so much and puts up with so much, yet he doesn't appreciate me at all. I know I deserve better, I wish he could give it to me.
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